new gender idea: guy who is super masculine and uses he/him pronouns, but every time someone acknowledges his gender or asks about it he switches to feminine presentation and she/her pronouns and refuses to acknowledge the change

sorry. *girl who is super feminine and uses she/her but everytime someone asks she switches to masc and he/him and refuses to acknowledge the change

sorry. *guy who is su-

hey. stop being funnier than me

What able bodied authors think I, an amputee and a wheelchair user, would want in a scifi setting:

• Tech that can regenerate my old meat legs.
• Robot legs that work just like meat legs and are functionally just meat legs but robot
• Literally anything that would mean I don't have to use a wheelchair.
• If I do need to use a wheelchair, make it fly or able to "walk me" upstairs

What I actually want:

• Prosthetic covers that can change colour because I'm too indecisive to pick one colour/pattern for the next 5+ years.
• A leg that I can turn off (seriously, my above knee prosthetic has no off switch... just... why?)
• A leg that won't have to get refitted every time I gain or loose weight.
• A wheelchair that I can teleport to me and legs I can teleport away when I'm too tierd to keep walking. And vice versa.
• In that same vein, legs I can teleport on instead of having to fiddle around with the sockets for half an hour.
• Prosthetic feet that don't require me to wear shoes. F*ck shoes.
• Actually accessible architecture, which means when I do want to use my wheelchair, it's not an issue.
• Prosthetic legs with dragon-claw feet instead of boring human feet or just digigrade prosthetics that are just as functional as normal human-shaped ones.
• A manual wheelchair with the option to lift my seat up like those scissor-lift things so I'm not eye-level with everyone's butt on public transport/so I can reach the top shelf by myself.
• A prosthetic foot that lights up when it hits the ground like those children's shoes.

"This would fix her" no, it would make her happier, but it would also make her worse.

Genuine question: What criteria do you use to make that distinction?

Collateral damage.

#potentially also blast radius

here’s one of them for all of you

identify that card

colossal dreadmaw

You’re right!!!! good job :>

Imagine my shock as a neurodivergent teen when I first realized that using large vocabulary and eloquent speech doesn't make you less likely to be misinterpreted, rather it adds an entirely new layer of misinterpretation I had never even realized existed in the form of people thinking you're being snobbish or condescending when you're just trying to be specific

Lemmings don’t jump off of cliffs unless they’re being chased. Frogs don’t stay in boiling water unless they’ve been lobotomized first. Crabs don’t pull each other back into the bucket unless they are desperately and randomly grabbing for anything to try to get themselves out, out of fear for their lives.

Actions taken in specific, negative conditions don’t exemplify the nature of all beings.

Before you mock a sheep for staying with the flock, ask what dogs nip at its heels when it strays too far, and what wolves wait just beyond the edge of the pasture.

wierd little girls who grow up to be weird trans men, and weird little boys who grow up to be weird trans women, and weird little kids who grow up to be weird nonbinary adults

Whenever passing comes up, even people who think it’s a silly ideal tend to focus on the talking point of “people who don’t want to or cannot pass” as to why it’s a bad ideal to hold. I think this framing puts passing in a purely aesthetic or visual light, but I think most people who dislike the term and concept understand it goes beyond this, but don’t always put it into words.

Most people who argue against assimilation and passing are doing so from experience. It’s not a simple moralizing of society’s practices and aesthetics, but how they’ve been burned by a need to pass before. I think one of the first things a lot of trans people notice early on is that the less you surround yourself with trans peers, the more you pass. If you have two friend groups, your queer one and your cis one, you’ll be presumed to be a cis person of your gender a lot more when hanging out with other cissies. If you’re the type of person who is consumed by a need to pass, over time you will necessarily start to leave the trans community in the pursuit of your own personal happiness. 

I think a lot of trans women have been on the receiving end of this at some point in their lives. A lot of the times it happens quietly. Sometimes they let you know why, but you pretty much always know. And this is why “choosing not to pass” or whatever isn’t a simple aesthetical choice for me. It’s a choice I make because my girls will always come first. Because I want people to see me and feel less alone, even if we never talk. I want to be the girl that people come up to at shows and say “you’re like me,” and then quietly to themselves, “thank god.”